What’s that then?
As hypnobirthing instructors we are often asked, aren’t we setting women up for disappointment, are we not encouraging them to be unrealistic about their birthing expectations?
Here at The Wise Hippo we can very confidently answer NO to this question because during our hypnobirthing classes we explore what we believe a perfect birth is.
Preparing for a hypnoBirth isn’t about having a short, calm, comfortable natural labour and a birth free of intervention (although of course many achieve this) it is about empowerment. Couples taking control of their birth experience, having the confidence to ask appropriate questions and making decisions based on the answer that are right for them, not anyone else. Not what Tamara or I would do (or any of our Wise Hippo Birthing Instructors they have attended classes with), nor their doctor, midwives, friend, sister and so on. What is right for them.
- The perfect birth is the birth that is right for mum and baby on the day.
- The perfect birth is one in which the couple look back upon and know that all decisions were theirs.
- The perfect birth is one in which mum and dad felt they were always in control of even if that meant making the decision to hand over to the experts because there were special circumstances.
We and our Wise Hippo Birthing Instructors don’t get 100% feedback that births played out in the way that was desired but we do get 100% feedback that the techniques are useful no matter what and that is the true value of hypnobirthing.
How can that be setting a woman up for disappointment?