How many times have you made resolutions at the beginning of a new year, full of hope and expectation, only to have those positive intentions dashed by failure and guilt at your poor ability to achieve your desires?
It’s not your fault.
Well not in the way you might expect.
You see we set intentions at a conscious level. The word ‘resolution’ itself very much speaks to the conscious analytical side of our brain. Its definition after all is ‘to set a firm decision to do or not to do something’. But we must remember that we are driven by our subconscious learnings and it is at this level that we have to make change.
The problem with this is that our subconscious primary role is our survival so it hates change. It hates change because it believes that anything we’ve been doing to date has been with the sole aim of keeping us safe.
Sometimes though it gets the lessons wrong or the learnings simply become outdated. We know consciously that something new will be better for us but we need to reassure the subconscious of that too.
This takes effort. Sorry but it does. Your original habits of being didn’t just happen they took time and lots of repetition. You didn’t really notice the amount of effort it took because it was happening subconsciously whilst you were just getting on with your life.
Now that you want to make a change though, the extent of the effort that it takes to make that change, could be about to slap you in the face.
Nice positive post this, isn’t it? 😉
I promise there is good news and I am about to share it with you.
I was aware of how easy it is to fail when setting a resolution earlier this year. My resolution was to do more exercise, walking to be exact, but I knew I couldn’t do it on conscious will power alone. I decided to vlog about my experience to get support from others. I also utilised a number of The Wise Hippo techniques to help me until walking had become a new way of being for me.
It worked and you can catch up on those vlogs on The Wise Hippo Facebook page if you are interested in finding out how The Wise Hippo techniques can help you with your resolutions.
In this post though I want to share with you the first thing that I did and that was to set a ‘conscious desire for change’.
Because your subconscious doesn’t like change you will need to reassure it that the changes your are making are for your good. To do this you must have a clear idea of why the change is so important. You will want to make sure that when you think about your resolution that you do so in a way that is desirable to your subconscious. For example there is no point saying that you want to earn more money in 2016 but you only focus on your lack of clients. This won’t change your actions in any way shape or form.
Whatever, we think about drives our actions and, therefore, if we consciously focus on what we want in a positive way, we create the desire we need at a subconscious level to ensure that we remain driven to take the action necessary to achieve what we want.
If we focus on the negatives we might wonder ‘what’s the point’.
Our subconscious doesn’t understand words but follows imagery and emotion. By focussing on our desire, the definition of which is, ‘a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen’, we are very much talking the subconscious’ language .
Do not underestimate the importance of this step. If you do not tap into your conscious desire for change your current subconscious programming will over-ride your attempts for change and you will not have the driving force to keep aiming for what you want.